Let me start by saying STOP. I know you’ve been mindlessly scrolling from social to social, but this time I want you to stop. Take a breath. You need to hear this.
You’re the girl with the goals. You’ve been planning and working and organizing FOREVER. You have big objectives that may or may not involve changing your entire life. You have been pushing for more since you conquered your last goal and will continue to push after that one.
You’re confident in yourself and your ability to achieve, and you should be SO proud of that! Not many people have the grit and determination that you do.
You know the grit and determination I’m talking about.
It’s the kind that intimidates others. It’s the kind that causes friends you’ve known forever to gravitate away from you. They say your dreams are too far fetched. Others see your efforts as admirable, but not sustainable.
Girl, I know this dream has been a part of you from the beginning. It’s the first thing you think about when you wake up in the morning and the last thing you think about at night. In fact, it’s the kind of dream that distracts you from your desk job and leaves you feeling inspired and capable of making the world a better place.
It’s the kind of dream that scares the shit out of you. I mean, what if you never make it? What if this is the only thing that you need to be truly happy, and you can’t make it happen?
Maybe you’ve been consistently pushing towards this huge, looming goal for months, and you look down to see that you’ve moved about an inch. You’re working tirelessly to see results. Some days it’s easier to believe that your dream is too far fetched to support.
It’s frustrating, it’s time-consuming, and it’s lonely. There are days when life gets in the way and clouds your view of the finish line. There are days when you find the naysayers planted in your head confirming all of your doubts.
Girl, keep your head up.
You’ve gotten through the hardest part. You chose your dream, and you created a plan to achieve it.
This plan will change more times than you can count. In fact, when you look back at this point in your life, your dream might look totally different than what it turned out to be. The world has a funny way of changing our plans to make space for new opportunities.
Most people don’t choose the path less traveled. It would be so much easier to chalk it up to an unrealistic idea and leave it at that. This allows them to go on about their life with a guarantee of security from the 9-5 job they work to build someone else’s dream.
And there is nothing wrong with choosing that path, but I know that you can’t stand the thought of it. Even if you’re working that 9-5 right now, I know you’re strategizing ways to work on your passion with every spare second. I know you’re LITERALLY dreaming about your next project that will get you closer to where you want to be.
Girl, keep pushing.
Whether you want to start your own business, create a non-profit, make art, get your Ph.D., or join the circus, don’t give up! Don’t turn your back on your passion because society tells you it’s the smartest choice.
This world has a place for creatives, insane intellect, and unique perspectives. There is room for you to achieve what you are working for, but it will take time.
Don’t forget that it took JK Rowling 12 tries before Harry Potter was published. After Elvis’ first concert, he was told he would be better off driving trucks. Steven King’s first book was rejected 30 times, and Lady Gaga was dropped from her first record label.
If you want something that is worthwhile, you have to struggle for it. There will be days when the voice of doubt is louder than the voice of reason or passion or perseverance. There will be days when you are rejected and sent back to the drawing board.
These are important moments. These are the moments that teach you what it takes to keep moving and prove that you are bigger than your doubts and the doubts of everyone around you.
When you make it, people will say you were an overnight success. They will not see your struggle.
Only you will be present for the moments that build you.
Respect your ability to achieve, and no matter what happens, never stop working towards something better.